At school i had to present infront of the class and I pause dcompletly and said like 5 things and did horrible and was shaking the job I want to do in the future has to deal with alot of speaking infront of large crowds up to 100 people im trying my best to overcome my fear any suggestions help?
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imagine everyone in their undies
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Just tell yourself, Just do it and you can get it over with.
nope your gonna mess up and eveyone will laugh
Just think the happy things and tell yourself that you can !
Of course you can. First understand that fear of public speaking is the most common dream fear of adults and affects stage performers, actors, and public speakers as well. Second, understand that you must know what you’re going to say and how you’re going to say it, in other words be prepared through practice out loud and knowing your material. Third, practice in front of some few persons, and while doing so look not at their faces but at their arms or chests or hair, being sure to shift your sight line throughout the room making as if you are addressing individuals. Fourth, if you can pull this off and few people can, assume a persona, so that it’s not you who’s speaking but someone else, a character you’re playing. In time you may be able to give a roomful of persons the impression that you are speaking to each of them, individually, and that’s no small thing. But for sure ease at public speaking never happens without PRACTICE and THOROUGH KNOWLEDGE OF THE MATERIAL.
I have seen actors almost vomit before going on stage their nerves were so shot, but once on stage the play character took over and they acted flawlessly.
It’s gut wrenching. I know, I got the same way all through school. Nearly cried every time I got up in front of the class. Shaking. I’d be thinking more about how upset I was than about what I was up in front of the class to do, then that would make me think that I was screwing up and that would make me more terrified until I was just a wreck and wanted to run away.
What helped me was Live Action Role Play (LARP) It took awhile for me to understand how it helped but it did. I could stand up in front of a huge gathering of people and be calm. It was great.
I figured out while it was Sybil or Redemption or Bethany up there talking I wasn’t scared of seeming foolish. It wasn’t Emily talking to the crowd. It was my character. I was a very bad case of low self esteem. My characters didn’t have those issues about themselves. I didn’t create them to be that way and so they weren’t.
I’ve been able to make this work for me long after I stopped playing LARP. It’s like building a second personality without the crazy part. You could choose someone that you respect and pretend to be them, or pretend to be that person you see yourself being in 20 years. Let that person speak, not you. It’s play acting. They say to practice in front of a mirror. Try it too. Watch yourself. Talk to yourself. Read your presentation aloud a few times. Feel how it flows, the rhythm of the words.
Look out and smile. Greet your crowd and see who smiles back. You KEEP a smile on your face. Say what you are up there to say in a big way! Look at and talk to those people who smiled back.
My last bit of advice is to find a book on meditation and learn to make yourself relax. Breath can do so much for you. Strong deep breaths. Training your body to RELAX when you take three big deep breaths in a row can work wonders just before you step up to talk.
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