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"The worst lies are the lies we tell ourselves. We live in denial of what we do, even what we think. We do this because we’re afraid. We fear we will not find love, and when we find it we fear we’ll lose it. We fear that if we do not have love we will be unhappy."
"The worst lies are the lies we tell ourselves. We live in denial of what we do, even what we think. We do this because we’re afraid. We fear we will not find love, and when we find it we fear we’ll lose it. We fear that if we do not have love we will be unhappy." help please
"The worst lies are the lies we tell ourselves. We live in denial of what we do, even what we think. We do this because we’re afraid. We fear we will not find love, and when we find it we fear we’ll lose it. We fear that if we do not have love we will be unhappy." help please
"Fear is a darkroom where negatives develop"
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"The worst lies are the lies we tell ourselves. We live in denial of what we do, even what we think. We do this because we’re afraid."
We do not believe we are good enough. We put slants and assumptions on our actions and thoughts to make them more palatable. To make them appear in a more positive light, after all, if WE don’t find our actions and thoughts appealing.. no one will!
We are blinded by the lies we tell ourselves about the lives we live and if we continue to live like this we will never know true love or true happiness.
Some people do this as they are afraid of how other people would see the real person and they are afraid they will be judged and will not be loved.
Others do it because they are afraid what they themselves may see. They have invested so much time and energy into these slants and assumptions that if they figure out it is all just an illusion it means that essentially their lives have been wasted.
"We fear we will not find love, and when we find it we fear we’ll lose it."
The fear of not finding love leads us to make the above assumptions, for instance; ”It MUST be all HIS/HER fault that they don’t love me..". If we do not take responsibility for us not finding love, we can avoid the horrible truths love sometimes makes us realize.
Love is a powerful emotion.. you are special in someones life and they are special in yours. This can be intoxicating and addicting and we get too comfortable. As all things must come to an end sooner or later, losing love is inevitable.
Many cannot or refuse to cope with that so again they shall blame the other person. They may be afraid of hating someone whom they felt so much love for because it puts into doubt any and all feelings of love they have had their whole lives.. if it can turn to something so ugly.
"We fear that if we do not have love we will be unhappy."
This will only happen if your happiness is based on love from others alone. If the happiness is just based on that, then it is a lie, an illusion (the worst lies are those we tell ourselves…). This fear of not having love has driven many people to many stupid decisions.
Only when your happiness is based on you and you alone can you call yourself truly happy. Very few people will reach this. It requires a lot of work and the ability to look at yourself without telling lies to yourself, to be completely honest.
I believe that only when we have done that.. can we truly love someone else. The love we have for another will be completely without dependence as we will not look to them for happiness nor any of the base root emotions or feelings that can only come from ourselves.
The lies we tell ourselves prevents us from experiencing true love.. The lies enable our dependence and need on someone else, this is just as powerful as love, but, comes without the happiness.
The first quote and second quotes are looking similar. The third one also same.
Now it is day-time. These have to be analyzed only in the early hours of the morning between 04.30 a.m. and 06.00 a.m. when our mind is fresh. Now I am slightly getting confused.
LIes we tell ourselves are the worst because we know how to convince ourselves that they are true- even if they are not. We know how to manipulate ourselves and how to pray on our minds weaknesses because we are ourselves.
We talk ourselves out of finding love be rationalizing the fear of loosing it. We make ourselves think that love will not be found and if it is, well people die or love fades so there is no point in trying to find it. We give up on our hopes and dreams of love because we ourselves deprive our lives of having that for fear we will not be able to control the love we are given- And love cuts to the core of a person…and that feeling is deep and without a feeling like this we make our selves believe we will be unhappy.
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